“Get a room!” That is the first thing that comes to my mind when I see other people making out. Either making out or using pet names. Making out, using pet names, or laying on top of one another during a movie: any way you slice the public displays of affection, it is still in public.
PDA is a funny concept. When you are that person riding solo and you walk into your two friends kissing each other on the lips, you feel uncomfortable. When you are at the theater and the couple in front of you starts stroking each other’s hair and cuddling, you think to yourself – should I “aghmm” clear my throat or just leave to give them privacy?
Anyway you cut it, there is something about watching an affectionate couple that makes you feel you are invading their space. Something about it, personally, makes me want to look away.
Although I have this aversion to public displays of love or sexual tension, I realized I have turned into that exact PDA culprit that I so often criticized. I know I have not mentioned this yet, but I have a new boyfriend. Ah! I was hoping to keep him my beautiful little secret, but yes I am taken.
My boyfriend was one of my good guy friends for about eight months before we started becoming affectionate, and a couple of months later he presented me with a rose and asked me to be his girl. (We are old-fashioned like that – and I love it.) I don’t want to bore you with the couple-ish details but may get back to the point.
Although I was so against kissing someone in public, I realized it all depends on the person you are with. I am so attracted to my boyfriend. When I think about the chemistry we have, how much I admire and respect him, and his adorable smile, I can’t help but lean over to kiss him.
When we are out, I find myself holding him and kissing him whenever I can. I have turned into that person who probably forces others to tell me telepathically to “get a room.” My single friends most likely look at me and think “Okay, we get it; you love your boyfriend.”
One thing I have realized is that everyone will play on both sides of the field. Girls will play offense and defense. When they are single, they will spend their time offending those who are mushy and cozy with their significant other. When they have that significant other, they will spend time defending their publicly-displayed affection to their nearby girlfriends.
If you feel strange watching someone physically engage his or her partner at the bar, then go ahead and feel strange. If you have a boyfriend and you can’t help but hold him, go ahead and hold him. Either way, onlookers and couples will feel and do as they please. It is the nature of the human beast. The human beast that loves to kiss in public! 😉