Every relationship has its ups and downs, and sometimes we say things we don’t mean. But there are some things that you should absolutely never say to your partner, no matter how angry or frustrated you are! Here are a few of those phrases you need to nix for a happy, healthy relationship:
“Then maybe we shouldn’t be together!”
Save breakup talk for when you truly want to end a relationship, instead of using it as a way to get your partner off your back during an argument.
“You know, (insert ex name here) never would have done that!”
Ouch. Comparing your current boyfriend or girlfriend to an ex is never a good idea – espcially out loud! Old relationships are meant to stay in the past. You learn from them and you move on. Don’t bring them up no matter what the circumstances are – it only makes it sound as though you’re still hung up on the past.
“Well, you left that dirty dish in the sink two weeks ago!”
Everyone makes mistakes, but that doesn’t mean you can hang on to them forever and bring back up when you’re the one in the hot seat. “’You forgot to feed the dog five years ago!’ is no excuse for forgetting to feed the cat today, and bringing up past transgressions simply leads to an escalation of blame and hurt. It’s also just lame,” says eHarmony.
“It used to be much more exciting in the bedroom.”
The worst thing you can do – especially in the moment – is to ridicule or insult your partner. If you want to heat things up in the bedroom, stick with positive reinforcements instead of negative comments. You’ll gain much better results with a comment like “I’d love it if…” instead of “You never…”
“This is the way I am, and I am never going to change.”
Sure, you can’t go into a relationship hoping that someone will change, but claiming that you’re never going to change your ways is also a wrong. “Claiming that you’re allowed to go drinking every night or leave the toilet seat up because that’s what you did when the two of you started dating is effectively saying ‘I will never grow or change, so don’t invest any hopes in me.'”
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